Going away without the kids isn't a new concept to us - we enjoyed a proper honeymoon in Mexico in 2008 and a long weekend in Marrakech in 2012. So it seems we have the itch to travel without the kids every 4-5 years and that's an itch I'm willing to scratch.
Don't get me wrong, I LOVE going on holiday with the kids, especially now they are older and it isn't as hard as travelling with 3 kids under the age of 5 (still can't believe we did that!). We do have lots of fun and I love creating lots of special memories with them. I can't wait for our holiday with them to Spain next month but it will very much be a different kind of fun to our planned trip to Cuba.
|2011 - the year we took 3 kids under 5 to Spain|
A holiday with the kids is VERY different to holidays without. Even if they are in kids club or one parent gives the other the luxury of a bit of 'me time' they are still very much there. Sometimes there's no escape! LOL
Steve and I invest a lot of time in our marriage. We don't want to be another divorce statistic and every week we actively spend time together and I do think this is one of the reasons we've survived so long. Now I'm not about to say you must book a holiday to keep your marriage alive, far from it. It is exciting having something to look forward to that's just for us though.
H, H and J honestly don't mind at all that we are going away without them. They are heading to Grannie's caravan and Grandma's house for the week over Easter and they will have a fab time - probably better than if we were at home nagging them to be honest. You know what grandparents are like for spoiling their grandkids.
Meanwhile Steve and I can't wait to take a private tour of Havana, soak up the history, drink rum all day every day, enjoy a meal together instead of having to constantly see to the kids, stay up late and dance the night away, have a siesta......you get the picture.
Typing this I know it sounds kind of selfish but I honestly think it's ok to be selfish sometimes. I know that a lot of my best friends wouldn't dream of escaping abroad without their kids but that's fine. I respect their opinion and they respect mine. We are all different and raise our children in different ways and I guess that's how we are all unique. It took me around a month to actually press 'confirm' on my booking as I was humming and harring for so long. I don't feel guilty about leaving the kids at home at all but I do feel guilty about spending so much money on myself and Steve. I've made peace with my decision now though and as Cheryl Cole would say, 'We are worth it'.
What do you think? Have you travelled without your children? Would you consider it?